Friday, July 10, 2009

Bastille Day

After seeing the eye Dr the other day, I stopped at the appointment desk to set the date and time of my next appointment. It fell on the 14th of July. I casually mentioned to the nurse that July 14th was Bastille Day. She and another nurse gave me a questioning look and asked what I meant. I had surprised myself when I blurted out the name of the holiday, but I explained that it was a National holiday in France, celebrating the storming and liberation of the Bastille prison and the beginning of the French Revolution.

In 1948 my husband and I, along with our 2 year old son, went to France. Soon after we arrived, we rented rooms in the apartment of a Jewish couple, M’sieur and Madam Dryfus, who had been in concentration camps and had taken in their 8 year old niece whose parents had been killed by the Nazis. They rented us a combination living room/bedroom and a dining room/kitchen but the bathroom was shared with them.

A large double bed in one corner of the living room was enclosed with heavy gray velvet drapes separating it from the rest of the room. The dining room had a large dining table and chairs in the middle of the room with a mini kitchen in one corner. A cot for our 2 year old was along one wall. There was a large window overlooking Paris in the dining room and a similar window in the living room overlooking shops on both sides of the street below and a park, which was catty corner across from our building

At the beginning of our stay in France, neither of us spoke French. The Dryfuses did not speak English, but we quickly absorbed enough French to understand them. They told us about the customs and habits of the French which paved the way for us when we shopped and traveled around Paris and the countryside. They urged us to join others of the 15th Arronndissment, (a working class neighborhood), and dance in the streets on Bastille Day to celebrate French Independence Day.

We were hesitant, but wanted to see how they celebrated. There was loud record music coming from an open doorway and 5 or 6 couples were already dancing in the street, but it wasn’t long before more people came to dance. The general atmosphere was one of gaiety and laughter. Many were strangers to each other and as greetings were exchanged, they realized we were Americans. Regardless of our limited French, and our decision to only watch, everyone insisted on dancing with us. I was very shy and tried to hold back, but found myself being whirled and turned as I tried desperately not to sprain an ankle as we twirled over the irregular pavement. My husband was also dancing and as busy changing partners as I was.

Besides being an evening to remember, it was a wonderful welcome to the neighborhood as well.

Monday, July 06, 2009

Kentucky

I must have been born with a ‘travel gene’ because from earliest memories I have been interested in far away places. By ‘far away’ I mean anything beyond home and environs. About the time I was in third grade at school, the names of states began to make an impact on my consciousness. I used to coax Dad to tell me once again the name of all the states he had been to. I kept track of them and if he forgot to name a state I would remind him. Mom’s list of states was meager compared to Dad’s and so was mine.

I loved to hear the folks tell me about the places I had been as a baby. In their telling, my birth state of Kentucky took on a quality of specialness that I never applied to any other state I’ve lived or traveled in. Neither have I spent much of my life there, but perhaps birth states are special. I certainly seemed to have bonded to mine.

In those early childhood days, any bit of history about Kentucky got my attention. Kentucky was called both ‘the dark and bloody ground’ and ‘the happy hunting ground’ but my grade school history books never explained the reasons. As an adult I read that Kentucky was not home to any tribe per say, but surrounded by many that hunted in the area and oft times clashed, thus, the bloody connotation.

When ever Dad would say that Kentucky was the home of fast horses, beautiful women, tobacco and whisky, he always had a twinkle in his eye and gave Mom a knowing look. I could tell a secret meaning had passed between them and it seemed as if Kentucky was special to them too.

Growing up I sifted the remarks about horses from Calumet Farm when the Kentucky Derby was run and took childish pride in having the famous race at Churchill Downs in ‘my’ Louisville. Even today when I watch the run for the roses on television, I get a delicious shiver when the crowd sings My Old Kentucky Home.

Churchill Downs Race Track

It has been many years since I was last in Kentucky, but I’ve had the pleasure of visiting Kentucky relatives who now live in other states. Favorite cousins, brother and sister, RosaLee and Albert and their families now live in Georgia and our last visit was memorable! Just hearing Rose’s voice on the phone brings back a wave of Kentucky nostalgia. I never get tired of remembering the house on Phillips Lane in Louisville and the love and warmth I experienced there. Viva RosaLee! Viva Albert!

Mint Julep

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Parades

Last night I watched a 1950’s movie about a small Iowa town’s high school baseball team winning the season’s championship game. To celebrate, a long line of vehicles, with horns blasting and occupants hooting and hollering, paraded through the center of town. The parade in the movie reminded me of the time Mom and I were forced to join a July 4th parade in Orange, Texas. It was scheduled to start at 10 o’clock in the morning at one end of town then pass thru an intersection near our house before turning onto McArthur Blvd, the main route of the parade.

Knowing the intersection would be blocked to ordinary traffic during the time of the parade, Mom and I, believing we had enough time to avoid the blockade, got in my 20 year old Buick Centurion and drove to a grocery store located on the corner of the intersection. We planned to quickly shop and return home before the parade started, but on reaching the intersection, we discovered the parade in progress! Mom and I were astounded that we had miscalculated the time. As we began to grasp the consequences of the situation, we assumed we would be watching the parade pass directly in front of the car for as long as the parade lasted since there was no way I could turn the car around and leave.

A policeman, monitoring the parade, held up his hand and stopped the flow of the parade. A marching band came to a halt but continued playing and the horses following the band began to prance in place. I thought the policeman was going to let me drive thru the intersection, but instead he motioned me to turn left and join the parade. I hesitated, but he again motioned me to get in line and I had to comply.

The idea of driving my old, battered up vehicle in a 4th of July parade was ridiculous enough but we had to endure the embarrassment the full length of the parade. All we could do was giggle. After a few moments, making the best of the situation, we actually got into the spirit of the day and waved to bystanders.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

My Sister Marion Elizabeth By Esther

[note: this story was written by my sister Esther]

Marion Elizabeth was the oldest of the children . She was always the one to baby sit us younger ones. She loved to teach and would show us how to do what she wanted done. Also, she taught us to make nice craft items and she loved to sing. After the chores were done and before bed time we would sing together.

I don’t remember how long it was that Mom and Dad were gone, but I was missing them. It seem like they should have been home and I looked every day for them to drive up into the drive way.

They left Jerry, Dick and me with Marion and Charles to take care of the farm and help with us three kids. We did help to feed the dog, chickens, gather the eggs and help in general with the chores. Chuck would supply the wood needed to cook and bake in the wood stove. Marion would do the cooking, cleaning and washing the clothes.

Marion would tell us what the plans were each day. She said if we did every thing she wanted done, she would bake us something good. And we understood she meant being good and doing what she wanted done. She cooked as good as Mom did.

Chuck liked it when we did the chores in a reasonable amount of time. We three did like to play and some times we did not get it done as soon as we should of but Chuck was never one to fuss. Most times, he would jump in and help us to finish the chores. Than he would take us to the back pasture to treat us to an apple from the tree. It was great to climb the tree, pick the one apple you could reach and sit on the branch and enjoy the ripe apple. Most of the time the apple was not all the way ripe but it was still good to eat.

Marion did the cooking and baking. She was as good at fixing the meals as Mom was. She would bake cakes and cookies and pies or most any desserts we three wanted. Meal times were good.

Chuck was also good at fixing food. He made a pumpkin spread to put on a slice of bread. It was his secret blend of spice and brown sugar, he would put butter on the bread, toast it in the oven and then added the pumpkin. We three loved it.

When Marion needed someone to run to get her something from the cellar she would call one of us three to go get it for her and the three of us went after it. Then we would know what was going to be for the next meal.

Mom had been gone for some time and I kept asking Marion, “Is Mom coming home today”? And she would tell me, “Maybe”. She would tell me to watch and see if I could see them coming up the drive way. Marion knew I was missing Mom and she told me to try to understand that Mom was needed there with Dad, more than I needed her and if I was patient she would let me wear her gold coin that was on a very thin gold chain. And I could make a wish on it but it was not a magic coin, it was only to be a wish. I wore her gold coin and it was a very special favor she let me wear it.

I did wish Mom and Dad would come home now. Today. It was almost supper time and I was sitting out in the drive way when Marion called us to supper. As I got up to go in I looked back and there was the car turning into our driveway and it was Mom. They were home.

We had a great supper. I was content. And Grandpa was well and so was Grandma. Every one was happy to have our Parents home, where life went on in a normal way.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

River Town

I grew up in a river town, but the fact was such a natural part of my childhood it never became a point of distinction in my stories. It’s only in recent years I’ve come to realize we took the river for granted. We accepted it as naturally as one accepts the existence of trees. It was just there. The following photos are a trip down memory lane.

Vehicles traveling north on highway 65 entered town underneath a railroad viaduct, then jigged a precarious ‘S’ jog to the left before heading in straight line to points north. If the vehicles managed the ‘S’ jog safely, (sometimes trucks carrying watermelons and eggs didn’t), they crossed over one of the high concrete bridge spanning the Iowa River.

concrete bridge

The 70 foot high limestone cliffs near the dam gradually diminished until the river banks were at water level on the far side of town.

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We hiked, picnicked and gathered wild flowers on the river banks, swam in the river water during the summers and ice skated on the frozen river in the winter.

LibraryPrincess Cafe


Metropolitan Opera House and Movie TheaterHigh School









The above photos are of the library, the Princes Café, the Metropolitan Opera House and Movie Theater, and the High School.

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Ice House

The Band Shell in the city park, the Post Office, and the ice house

There were Friday night concerts in the Band Shell during the summer. We watched Ice being cut from the frozen river in the winter time. I earned nickels and dimes running errands to and from the Post Office.

rainbow over the river

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Change

It’s a time of change; it’s a time of confusion. Each day brings new aspects of a world in flux. Television coverage of local, state, national and global events depicts humanity struggling to cope with powers beyond their control.

From an individual’s need to provide daily sustenance, to the masses of humanity searching for the means of survival and security, the struggles are shown in digital color over and over on television and are reminders that certainty is not an absolute.

Breakdown of financial institutions and failed economies have caused hardships and confusion for populations as well as governments. Tyrannical movements based on fear and religion have spiked around the globe. The behavior of countries striving to gain power advantage over neighbors through weapon development is incomprehensible as it creeps us ever closer to the destruction of war.

I am totally bewildered when I listen to the myriad discussions on television and radio about the whys and wherefores. Everyone has a solution but also opposition.

"What to do, Percy? What to do?"

I remember another time during a depression when similar happenings took place. Weapons were tested on the people of Spain and Ethiopia. An Asian country caused mass upheaval the world over, another created a thousand year reign.

What is it about ‘human rights’ and ‘sovereign nation’ that we don’t understand?

Monday, June 15, 2009

Thank You

Thanks to one and all for the many birthday wishes. I’ve had a wonderful day. I’ve received lovely gifts and treats galore!

I’ve been ‘hugged’ and ‘grubbed’. Virtual hugs by email and IM chats. I got bear hugs from my son, who also treated me to wonderful dinner at Ninfa’s, Houston’s famous Mexican restaurant.

After such a nice day, I’m ready for anything the fates throw my way until my birthday next June.

Love and hugs to all,
marion

Thursday, June 11, 2009

A Memory of the Fair by Esther

[note: this story was written by my sister Esther]

It was a day that my sister had promised to take me to the fair. I had looked forward to going and the best part was my sister was going to make it a special day just for me. Adeline was going to treat me to an all day event. I was about five or maybe six years old. I was to see any and every thing there was to see at the fair. Having never been to one, she had told me what I might see and how the day was to go. She was waiting for me to finish my breakfast so we could be on our way.

Adeline had our lunch packed in her carrying sack and her book to read was in her pocket. She took my hand and off we started to town. We lived in the country. It was a long way to town. We walked down the gravel road to the main highway that would take us to the main street in town. It was a good day to walk. The sun was shining and the wind was just a gentle breeze. Adeline and I were laughing and having a good time hiking and playing tag as we went on our way to town. Adeline was always happy and she was telling me I needed to be a good girl and not give her a bit of trouble today. She said it was to be a special treat only for a good girl. So I promised to be a good girl and do just what she told me.

It was not long before we had other people walking to the fair with us. There was soon a crowd. Everyone was talking about what we would see at the fair and it was not long till we were there.

There were rides that I knew were not for me to even want to get on. The one I did like was like a a big round wheel. It was very tall. It was a Ferris wheel. Adeline was not sure if we could ride on it. She looked to see if she had enough money. Yes! She did and we got in line with the others who were waiting for the next ride. It was good to just watch as it went around and around. Just looking up as it went over and started down was exciting. We got on a seat and the man put the bar down and Adeline put her hands on the bar and I did my hands like hers. When the Ferris wheel started up, I began to get scared, it was not like I had thought it would be. Adeline was telling me not to be afraid, I was going to be fine. And she reminded me of my promise to be good. I really did hold on tight and made it till we got back on the ground. I did promise myself I would never do that again.

We made our way through all the fair and at noon we stopped at a picnic area. Adeline found a table and bench and we had the lunch she had in her carrying sack. We were really hungry and could have eaten another sandwich if she had had one. We sat there for a while. Adeline had her book out and was reading it. She always had a book with her to read. She loved her books for as long as I knew her. She was never without one handy to read if she had a minute or two. She finally put the book away and we started out toward home.

We had planned to walk back to the starting gate and then head home. She lead the way and I walked behind her. It was at the puppet show I stopped for a minute; then when I looked for her she was gone. I had lost her and I look all around me and she was no where to be seen. I was alone in the crowd and this really frightened me. I started to cry and it was not long till every one was looking for my sister. The last time I saw her, she was reading her book walking in front of me.

A nice man helped me to quit crying and he said he would see to it that Adeline would be with me and it would be alright. I just needed to wait and see. It was not my sister that came and got me, it was my father. One of the people who was looking for Adeline knew who I was and went to the telephone office where my father worked and he came to get me. I was so happy to see him. I cried and hugged him, I knew I was safe with him. I held his hand and would not let go. He walked with me to his company office and it wasn't long 'til Adeline was there and he told her to never let me out of her sight again. He did fuss at her and I felt so bad. I was not the good girl I had promised to be.

In the end, Adeline did give me a hug and made me promise to never stop when walking behind her. Which I did. She said “Sisters have to stay together.”

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Memories of Long Ago Part 1 of 3

During the Great Depression years, we three girls and five boys lived with Mom and Dad on an asparagus farm in Iowa. The girls: Marion Elizabeth, Marie Adeline, and Esther Lavern and the boys: Herod Jr, Charles Hamilton, Elbert James, Richard Lee, and Gerald Dean had nicknames that changed over the years. We changed Junior to Mickey when he was in his teens. The only person to use Marie was her husband Larry. She was always called Adeline or Addy by family. Charles was sometimes called Chuck. Richard was Dick and Gerald was Jerry. My husband and his family called me Abby but I was always Marion to the family. When Elbert went into the Marine corps and later married, he was called Abby by his wife, Mary and his co-workers, but remained Elbert to the family.

Adeline and I walked to a school in town but Esther and the boys went to a country school and were driven there in a car. Their school had only one room with one teacher that taught first grade thru the 6th grade. Adeline and I took shortcuts thru several pastures to reach a road that led to our school.

Every morning Esther had her beautiful long, red hair braided French style. If Mom was busy, I braided her hair, but I did not know how to do French braiding so did plain braids and tied them with ribbons. Esther was always patient and never squirmed or wriggled when she was having her hair done.

Adeline had ash blond hair that was extremely fine, cut shoulder length. Sometimes she got chewing gum in her hair. If she went to sleep with chewing gum in her mouth, it would fall out onto the pillow and get into her hair. Mom would use oil to carefully remove the gum without using scissors, but sometimes it was too difficult and the gum had to be snipped out. Once Adeline spilled a bottle of blue ink in her hair and regardless of many shampoos, she had to wait until her hair grew long enough for the color to be trimmed away.

My hair was a lighter red than Esther’s. I worn it page boy style but when I wanted curly hair, I’d do it up in pin curls at night before going to sleep. In the morning, when I removed the bobby pins and combed my hair, the ends would be curly. Sometimes Adeline and I would ask Mom to put our hair up in rags. Locks of hair were dampened and wound around strips of rag. When the hair dried, the rags were removed and we’d have long curls like the children wore in the old south.

Memories of Long Ago Part 2 of 3

Memories of Long Ago Part 2 of 3

In spring time when the asparagus started to grow, all the children got up early in the mornings to help Mother and Dad cut the asparagus and get it ready for sale to the grocery stores. The stalks had to be rinsed with water and bundled with an elastic band into one pound bunches. The grocery stores bought the asparagus for 25 cents a pound.

The older children helped with the chores when it did not interfere with their school work. Sometimes Adeline and I were asked to milk the two cows the family owned. I was very skittish around cows. I knew they are gentle creatures but their size intimidated and frightened me. I was even afraid of cows in the pastures that Adeline and I crossed on the way to and from school. If any of the cows grazing at the bottom of the hill near the creek started ambling toward the fence line where the path was, I asked Adeline to run ahead and shoo them away.

Tippy, a collie was our favorite pet, but we also had a pet pig. It had received special attention to help it survive and was kept in a box close to the kitchen wood stove. As the pig grew it was housebroken and slept in the corner of the kitchen at night. The pig was very intelligent and learned how to open the kitchen screen door by itself. When it wanted to go out, it would gently bump the screen with it’s snout until the hook popped open. When he wanted to come back in, he would make oink sounds. If the pig was ignored or no one heard him, the noises got louder. The pig was very gentle and loved having his tummy scratched. One day Mom gave orders that the pig had to stay outside; that it could no longer come into the house. We children protested, but knew that eventually the pig would grow too big to be a pet. We took him to the barn where he joined his siblings in the pen with the other pigs.

Another pet we had during those years was a white calf. It had to be taught how to eat from a bucket. Dry feed was mixed with milk for the calf to drink. To teach the calf to drink the food, we dipped a hand into the food, and then slipped it into the calf’s mouth so it could taste the food and start sucking. When we dipped our hand back into the bucket, the calf learned where the food was and in a few days he eagerly gulped his meals. While the calf was young it was staked near the house in a grassy area. When it learned to graze, we moved it to a new grassy plot several times during the day.

There were many chores that had to be done on the little acreage. Besides the acres of asparagus, there were large beds of strawberries, blackberries and raspberries that had to be picked. We always had a big vegetable garden and there were chickens to feed and eggs to collect. Dad helped with the chores before going to his office at the telephone company and again when he got home from work. We girls and boys helped before and after school.

One day Dad called everyone together and told them that he was going to get some bee hives so the family would have honey and there would be enough to sell. Dad showed everyone the catalog from a company in South Carolina that sold queen bees and the equipment needed to work with them. There were hats with screens covering the face, heavy gloves and other protective clothing for protection from bee stings. There was a can used to make smoke which calmed the bees when you took honey from the hives.

Every one was excited when the hives arrived. Father chose to put them near the berry patches so they would not interfere with activities near the house. As time went by, we children learned a lot about bees and helped Dad check the hives to see how much honey was being made. When a colony of bees got too big to live in one hive, they swarmed, which meant half the bees would leave with a new queen bee and start a new colony somewhere else.

One day one of the children saw the bees beginning to swarm and called for everyone to come and see. The bees began to form a buzzing mass in the air above the hive with a new queen surrounded by worker bees protecting her. As more bees streamed out of the hive to join the new queen, Charles picked up a clod of dirt and tossed it into the air and into the swarming bees. He held out his arm and the new colony settled on it. He was able to very gently push the bees into an empty hive without getting stung. Everyone praised Charles for being so brave! It had been a very exciting event and everyone was happy and very proud of Charles.

Memories of Long Ago Part 3 of 3

One of the reasons Mom and Dad moved to the asparagus acreage was the chance to supplement Dad’s telephone company salary by selling asparagus and berries to the local stores as well as the surplus produce from the vegetable garden. With the addition of the bee hives, honey was added to the list of things the family could sell along with chickens and eggs. It was an ideal situation since the chores were not overly labor intensive and we children pitched in and helped according to our ages. We raised our own vegetables, had a cow for milk and raised several pigs for our own home grown hams and bacon.

Grandma and Grandpa A came from Kentucky and while they were with us, Grandpa helped with the chores and Grandma helped Mom with the canning. Adeline and I were expected to help with all the chores as were the older boys. We washed canning jars and were generally available when called upon. When tomatoes and peaches were canned, they were first put in a big galvanized tub and covered with hot water so the skins would slide off. Adeline and I helped pick them out of the water and remove the skins then toss them into a tub of cold water. A lot of the canning was done by pressure cooker. Large crocks of sauerkraut stored in the cellar lasted the winter.

As the depression deepened, families struggled to get by. At one point, Dad and several of Mom’s older brothers joined together to buy and sell coal. Dad bought a stake truck and my uncles did the driving. During the winter they would buy loads of coal from mines in Missouri and bring it to our house in northern Iowa to sell to the local farmers. They often got orders and as soon as one load was delivered they would immediately return to Missouri for another load. In the spring instead of coal, they hauled fence posts. As soon as the truck arrived at our house, the men would get on the phone to farmers in the area and often sold the load on the first phone call.

I liked school. My favorite subjects were English and Biology. I often thought of becoming a Biology teacher, but I assumed my fear of snakes would prevent me. I barely scrapped by in Latin and Math. I sang alto in Glee Club. In the Journalism club I worked on the school newspaper. I was a baton twirler in marching band and had a part time job in one of the dime stores in town. I was not allowed to date until after I graduated from high school. Adeline and I went to parties, movies and roller skating. Adeline and I were both girl scouts and went to one summer camp for a month, and another year went to camp for two weeks. I thought of being a nurse, but money was scarce and going to nursing school seemed out of the question.

The depression affected everything in our lives and was to blame for the banks being closed, empty store fronts on the street and the piles of oranges in California being burnt with petroleum. But the photos of the war in China, the radio spouted news of the Italians warring in Ethiopia, and the Movie Tone news reels showing Russians dying in snow at Stalingrad was a parallel world compared to the asparagus farm, in which my days continued to melt into each other with an endless sameness, and innocence.

Sunday, June 07, 2009

June

June is bustin’ out all over. It’s my birthday month.

I’ll be 87 on the 15th!

That, of course, is a most important event, at least as far as I’m concerned, but June also represents the National interest in a myriad of other topics. Depending on your sense of humor and/or interest, here is a short list:

National Dairy
Great Outdoors
Adopt a Cat
Drive Safe
Fruit and Vegetables
Iced Tea
Rose
National Safety
Potty Training
Turkey Lovers
Zoo and Aquariums

As a child, I took delight in sharing my birthday with a famous Opera singer, Madam Schumann Heink. I only knew about her from reading a newspaper column of events happening on that day. I was an adult when I actually read anything about her other than her birthday and discovered that she was a brilliant and world famous singer.

I’m glad I celebrated her birthday along with mine for years, even as she faded from memory and renown as a diva.

For the last 65 years I have celebrated D Day. Perhaps the better word is ‘Marked’ not ‘Celebrate’. This year the speeches, the 21 gun salute, the fly over of planes and Obama’s remarks made it seem more poignant than in years past. The Crosses in the cemetery, each with a fluttering flag, brought forth emotions of patriotism that Nazism and Fascism were defeated, but they are also reminders that we are engaged in two wars.

It seems as if the only time we have a short period of peace is when our economy is bankrupt and we have to mend our ways. Then when the economy has gained back the ability to sustain a new war action we find ourselves involved in another righteous fight.

Monday, June 01, 2009

Creating A Cookbook

For several weeks I have been recuperating from emergency surgery for a detached retina. The Dr. says everything is healing nicely and I no longer have to wear an eye patch.

I had the surgery when I was half way thru a project of re-typing a few recipes for easier reading. I had been motivated by my sister, Esther when she told me she was re-typing some of their favorites and giving copies to her daughters. I wanted to do the same for Kim and Bob.

Esther and I began referring to the re-typed pages as our ‘books’. We compared notes on how many recipes we should include. At first we thought between 7 and 10 then decided 15 or 17 would be ok. We didn’t want to write a real cookbook, only one that had some of the family favorites. When our families found out about our little books, some of them wanted us to add one or more of their recipes. Esther and I agreed they definitely should be included, which in turn led to the promise of our exchanging books because we wanted copies of everyone’s favorites.

Somewhere between 20 and 30 recipes, I decided to decorate my pages with food photos. I didn’t realize I was in for a long bout of learning ‘how to’. I knew how to crop photos, etc. but I was in for a shock when I didn’t know how to place and keep them where I wanted them. Then along came the surgery.

When I was able to get back on the computer and work with the recipes and photos again, I mentioned to Esther, who was printing her pages on her printer that I thought the cost of Kinko’s publishing might be cheaper than my having to buy color cartridges for my printer. I had long since passed the number of books I planned to give away. Originally it was only going to be 3 or 4, but the list grew and grew. So did the number of recipes I kept putting in the book as I continued to ignore warnings from my son that I should seriously think of limiting pages or I would be in for STICKER SHOCK when I went to have it printed. Well……and then……

Necessity is the Mother of invention. I can email a copy of my book in PDF format to those who would like to have a copy.

UPDATE: The cookbook can be downloaded by clicking the link on the left panel.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Memories

Memories are like rivers and streams of scenes I’ve known and places I’ve been. Sometimes a few notes of music, a chance word, or fragrance will trigger a chain of remembrances. My sister, Esther and I often reminisce about our shared experiences. In the telling, we compare notes for accuracy and are delighted when our memories mesh.

I have been engrossed in the television coverage of Obama’s train trip to Washington and the preparations for his inaugural, I know those who waved as the train passed, and those who will attend the actual inaugural, will have treasured memories of a significant event in American history. Those of us viewing the events on television will also have a sense of history and memories to talk and write about for a long time to come.

During the last several days I have remembered a couple of moments when something pertaining to a president of the United States has lingered in my mind. Why they should still be with me with such an acute awareness is beyond me because the moments are just that, fractions a second and without a preamble or a follow up indicating a grand design.

FDR Inaugural 1933One moment that replays itself from time to time is President FDR’s inaugural speech when I was 15. In my mind’s eye I had started climbing the stairs to my bedroom after being outside shoveling the snow from the front sidewalk. It had been snowing heavily all day and I had gone out several times to clear the sidewalk, but at this moment I wasn’t feeling well with a headache. I heard Roosevelt’s speech on the radio and stopped on the stairs to listen for a moment. As I leaned against the banister, I watched the falling snow thru the bay window in the living room. I have no idea what the weather was like for Roosevelt, but I associate falling snow with inaugural speeches.

My memory also holds a newspaper photograph of President Truman on his daily walk with reporters trailing after him. I don’t remember the caption, but I associate that photo with his being angry with critics of his daughter’s concert.

I have never seen an American president in person. I know them from newspapers, radio and television and of course the movie tone news. I also read about them. My perceptions of them individually come form those sources. Attitude toward them for approval or disapproval is determined by my interest in politics.

Lincoln DouglasI wonder and hope I would have supported Lincoln if I had been present at his debates with Douglas. In those very early years when he was a country lawyer I might have been a supporter because he might have been a neighbor with a reputation for winning law cases. As a northerner, I would have been against slavery and would have approved the emancipation of slaves, but I seriously doubt I would have ever dreamed a black person would be president.

In a few days Obama will be sworn into office with an approval rating of 78%. The problems facing him are dire and complex, but the country is anxious and willing to help him. His confident smile is encouragement to all of us that this memorable moment in our history will truly empower us to be the Americans our constitution says we are.


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Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year 2009

Happy New Year 2009

Wars are raging across the planet. Groups of humans are fighting for power to control other groups of humans. Almost any excuse is used to agitate and manipulate situations for advantage by either individuals or factions within communities and countries. Borders are no longer indications of ethnicity but have turned into highways and byways for refugees fleeing violence. Pestilence and starvation have become norms as a result of massive greed and selfishness by self appointed rulers. The acquisition of money, which represents power, is so extreme in every country that large populations are in want of housing and food. Pollution of earth and water exists almost beyond the ability to prevent a global catastrophe.

I wonder that I have the temerity to wish loved ones a happy New Year, but as hope springs eternal and tradition calls for celebrating the passing of the old year as the New Year comes into being...

I do wish all a happy, healthy and prosperous 2009.

If you would like to help....

Oxfam America

Heifer International

Justgive.org

Sea Shepherd

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Is It Fate or Do We Choose?



Is It Fate or Do We Choose?


For all the good times
Thru all the years
For all the joys
The laughs, the tears
Is it fate or do we choose?
We pay the piper
And dance a tune
We swing and sway
From side to side
Then turn and bow to start anew.
Is it by luck or chance
We masque the tune and
Start a dance?
For all the laughs
And tears, a few
Would it differ if
We knew?
If it’s fate or if we choose?

Marion Bigelow, December 22, 2008

Friday, November 07, 2008

Our President

The United States of America elected Barrack Obama president yesterday, November 4th, 2008. His overwhelming victory over John McCain is a win of historical proportion; Obama is the first African American chosen to hold that office, and stories of his life and reports of his election are already resounding around the world. Last night’s celebrations continued in American cities today, demonstrating a faith in his ability to lead us thru a deepening recession and any security challenges the country may face in the future.

I have been an Obama supporter since I heard him speak on television months ago; consequently, I’m very pleased that he is our president elect, but early in the campaign, I had my doubts that he would be elected because of racism. Even in my enthusiasm, there was a moment when I, myself, stopped to think of what it would mean to have a black man as president.

I had already accepted the fact that Obama was a candidate with extraordinary qualities. As I envisioned him giving television press conferences, meeting world leaders and giving speeches to the nation, I mentally approved his living in the white house. Then I suddenly realized that if he was elected, his wife would be ‘first lady’. I had never envisioned a black woman as ‘first lady’. I didn’t know much about Michelle and wondered how she would compare to what I thought was the epitome of first ladies, Eleanor Roosevelt. It only took a nano-second to realize that if I wanted Obama as president, I could and would accept her too. During the campaign she exhibited the same admiral qualities of her husband and she has certainly surpassed my hopes that she will bring honor to the title.

I applaud the changes in attitude achieved by those who fought and continue to fight against racism. I can trace changes in my own attitude from childhood. As a third grader, I remember asking my father if he had ever shook hands with a Negro or touched the skin of one. When he said yes, I asked him how it felt and when he said it felt just like touching white skin, it was difficult for me to fathom black skin feeling warm. I knew Dad was from the south and his grandfather had owned slaves but at that age I had only been exposed to white people and those of Mom’s family who often talked of their American Indian grandmother whose name had been given to my Mother.

In later years when I was engrossed in family history, Mom told me of her first encounter with a black person. She had just arrived at the train station in Louisville, Kentucky and had difficulty managing luggage and a nine month old fussy baby, at the same time. Incidentally, I was the baby. A black porter not only took care of the luggage, but took charge of the situation. She tried to refuse his help, but he took the baby and guided her to the restaurant and even helped serve her. Mom said that she had never been around black people and was painfully aware of his blackness. She was even too timid to drink the milk he had poured in the glass for her. To avoid hurting his feelings, she tasted the milk but didn’t finish it.

As I moved thru the school grades, I absorbed a ‘northern attitude’ toward those who discriminated against black people in the south. In those formative years, stories of the Underground Railroad were enhanced by childish speculations about the secret passage way leading to an outside exit at my maternal grandmother’s house. As children we pretended that it was one of many used to help slaves escape to Canada.

The family’s move to California during the war brought us in contact with ethnic groups, cultures and religions we hadn’t known in the small Midwestern town in Iowa. The war not only disrupted the country and turned lives upside down, but when it ended, social changes came fast and furiously. Women began to aspire to careers and joined persons of color to demand equality.

I not only supported the Civil Rights movement but was also a fervent supporter of Equal Rights for Women. As a young married woman with two children, I had been shocked when a co worker referred to women as second class citizens. I had only applied that term to black people. It had never crossed my mind that even simple things like the ownership of a vehicle required a husband’s permission if a wife wanted to sell it. When I asked Mom about it, she said yes, they always had ‘and/or’ on the registration of the family cars in case she had to sell the car in some emergency.

I remember when the graduation of a woman from either law or medical school was unusual enough that it made the newspapers. Some years ago there was a push to have the states ratify an Equal Rights amendment to the constitution guaranteeing women’s equality but nothing came of it. History of the amendment can be read on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equal_Rights_Amendment . It has been reintroduced in every congress since 1982 but public interest has subsided. I was quite disappointed when one of my own brothers fought against passing it, postulating there were already laws on the books protecting women. Today there is sporadic talk of equal pay for equal work, but public interest in that is greatly diminished too.

It’s interesting to see how each generation pushes the acceptance of others to a greater understanding and our attitudes continue toward the goal of equality. It’s heartwarming to watch television interviews with a people who never believed a person of their race could or would be chosen president, only to wake up one morning and realize the highest office in this land has been given to one. It’s also a testament to Barrack Obama’s character that Americans of every color, race and belief recognized his abilities and have faith in him to exemplify our Constitutional and democratic ideals. I’m 86 years old as I write this and I may not live to see a woman reach the top of the mountain, but Obama has shown the way, and one day a woman will be President of the United States of America.

I’m pleased that many family members are as enthusiastic as I am that Obama is president. Comments that both my son and daughter have written follow in the next sections.


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Bob's Stories

Barak Obama - President of the United States of America! What an amazing and wonderful title!
I have had a curious and unique relationship with the civil rights'movement' in this country, ever since I was a teenager.

In the early 1960's - while in High School - I was a 'Quaker' [or more correctly, 'The Society of Friends'], and deeply involved with my Friends 'Youth' Organization, of about 150 or so teens of all ages, 13-19. This was in northern California. We were very active in social, and politically aware events of the time, but we focused a lot of our energy on the 'Civil Rights Movement'. Some of our group, and close friends, were 'Freedom Riders' on the Greyhound busses touring the south. Several were beaten and jailed. Later 2 of my good friends participated in the 'March on Selma' with Dr King. I was too young to go then.

During these years, Dr Martin L. King, and several notable civil rights activists, musicians, artists, and writers were to be having a town hall meeting about the 'movement' at Stanford University. Our youth group helped in the promotion of the event. We waited outside the hall, and Dr King, and the other notable activists, and celebrities - on their way into the event - were kind enough to stop and meet with us briefly, each say hello to every one of us indivually, and shake our hands by way of thanks for supporting the 'movement'. I have always been very proud to say I shook Dr Kings hand!

Those were very worrisome days in the Civil Rights movement, as there were many people across the country - not just in the south - that were not very favorably inclined toward helping black folks, or supporting the concept of 'equality' in general. I was about 15 then, and had not yet gone to Viet Nam ... which is another, but very much inter-related story. In spite of my belief in, and study of, civil disobedience and non-violence my whole life, I found myself in the Marine Corps. This is an amazing story in itself, but for another time of telling.

Fast forward now a few years to 1965.

I was in Marine training at Camp Pendleton, California - in the heat of August, when the 'Watts Riot' erupted in Los Angeles. Being only an hour away, our unit was hastily organized, and trained for 'riot control, to attack civilians .. where we learned, and practiced crowd control techniques with fixed bayonets. This scared the shit out of all of us. Americans against Americans. About 35% of our unit was composed of African-Americans, who were not inclined to participate, and threatened a virtual 'mutiny'. This was a very crazy time. Ultimately, we were never called to the riots, but the Government had rows of busses, and troop transports lined up for us, waiting to go at a moments notice. It was very serious buisness. We were not issued rubber bullets. Thank God we never had to go.

The first time I ever voted in a National Election was by absentee ballot - as a Marine in Viet Nam. I voted for Eldrige Cleaver. There wasn't a chance in hell he would be elected, but to me - there wasn't any other choice. I later wondered if that was a 'wasted' vote, but at the time, I was convinced it was the right thing to do. I could not vote for LBJ! Through a curios twist of fate, I had actually shaken hands with President LBJ, when he came personally to see off our Marine Unit. He was shipping us off to Viet Nam to reinforce our losing troops during the 'Tet Offensive' of 1968. LBJ had come to El Toro Marine Air Base to see us off. We traveled in combat gear, to be ready to fight upon landing, which we did.!

By the age of 19, I had shaken hands with Dr King, and LBJ. What a world of contrasts.

When I watched Barak Obama give the keynote speech at the Democratic Convention, in 2004, it was the first time I had heard such stirring words of inspiration, reconciliation, and hope from a politician in many decades. It gave me hope. I was inspired. I was stirred. I was 'called'. I felt that here was a person who actually 'got it'! I turned to the folks I was watching the convention with, and said WHO is that guy? Wow.. HE is the guy who should be running for president, and if - by some chance - he ever did, he had my vote! I have since learned that many others mirrored that exact moment.

I was at the VA hospital on this last voting day - November 4th. It happened that I was there almost all day. There was a palpable feeling of excitement, and it seemed that everyone - even the most red neck hardened old vets - were all hoping that Obama would prevail. I was quite taken by the universality of the sentiment across all the various clinics, staff, waiting rooms, and elevator rides. There was a quiet riot of sorts. I would ask folks if they had voted, and a common response was .. "I voted for historic change last week" [early voting] ... or 'I'm voting for history today' ... several die hard republicans even said .. they had never voted for a Democrat, but had voted for Obama. It was quite inspiring, and wonderful how everyone seemed to be pulling together. I had not experienced anything like it since the stirring days right after 9-11 when everyone was 'one'.

President Obama will have a tough path. I think we all put the expectations of an FDR on him. I want him to live up to those expectations... but he is one man. I liked his appeal to all Americans to work together... from the ground up... I have always believed that kind of change - from the people upward - is stronger and more lasting. This country needs a lot of fixing.Obama has called on all of us to participate in the repair. All my energy and hopes are with our new President. I am even more proud to be an American today! I would love to shake his hand!

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A man walks up to the guard at the White House and says ... "I'd like to see George Bush".

The guard says ... "I'm sorry, but he doesn't live here anymore."

Next day .. the same guy walks up to the guard and says .. "I'd like to see George Bush"


The guard - a bit peeved - says "I told you .. he doesn't live here anymore"!

This goes on for the next 2 days .. and the guard is getting steamed!

Finally the guard explodes and says .."SIR .. I told you George Bush doesn't live here anymore!!!!"

The man says ... "Oh I know that .. but don't you just love hearing it !!"

The guard says .. "Oh .. absolutely ...then I'll see you tomorrow ?" ..

Kim’s Stories:

Growing up on the West Coast, I was mostly unaware that there was any significance to skin color. My many cousins lived in many parts of the US and when we got together for family reunions skin color had no impact on our play time.

Traveling with my mother to Mexico and living there also never made any impact on me, except that being white made me the target of hoots and hollers from young men as I went about my day.

But when my Mom took me to live in Louisiana for a while, I got my first confused glimpse of a time that is slowly fading from living memories. We had just crossed the border into Louisiana when my Mom stopped for gas. I headed for the restrooms and was confused by the three doors: White Men, White Women, and Colored Men & Women. I had to ask my Mom which door to use.

My Mom rented a house out in the country side and almost daily we got together with my Aunt and her family; my only regular playmates were my cousins. But on days that we did not get together, I had to play by myself. It was not long before I found a family living a good walk from our house in the country. Sometimes I would go there and stand across the street waiting for an invitation to play. I could see there were several kids my age and they had a big tire swing that looked like it would be great fun. I went there a number of times waiting for an invitation but it never came. It was not until much later that I realized that the family was black and I was never going to get the invitation to play with them because it would have been too dangerous for them, as the Civil Rights Movement heated up in the South.

During my lifetime things have changed a lot, and things that seem easy now, were not so easy a few decades ago. As a young person working those “character building” jobs that we never put on our resumes, I had the opportunity to learn to cook in a small cafeteria in the JCPenny Department Store. I had wonderful mentors in my Uncles who were cooks and when I had mastered most of the basics, they urged me to move on to the next level: cooking in a coffee shop. This was a big step for me, the pay would be twice what I was making and I was scared when I went to apply for position advertised in the local News Paper. The manager was very polite when I told him that I wanted to apply for the "cook’s grave yard position", but after a brief conversation, he said “No”. I went home and Mom asked “Did you get the job?” and when I told her that they didn’t give it to me she said “You go back there and tell them to give you that job!” So, I got back into the car and went back and asked to see the Manager again. When he came to talk to me, I asked him “Why didn’t you give me the position?” he replied that he was very glad I had come back and that I was hired and to come in at 11 pm. He told me they had never hired a woman cook before and that it was a bit awkward hiring me. I worked there for a number of years and for a long time I was one of two women cooks working for that coffee shop chain.

The election of Barak Obama is only the beginning of changes that will ripple through this society and the world. History has been changed forever. There is no going back to a time that only white men could work, hold political office and make decisions. Each tick forward is on a ratchet that can never be unwound. It doesn’t matter if there are great successes or miserable failures, the ratchet has been clicked forward and new dynamics have been unleashed. Barak Obama has been given the position that was advertised through out the country. He is now the first on the road and leads the way for everyone who has ever heard the word “No”.


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Saturday, October 18, 2008

Mimi Cat

By the time the full moon rose over Houston, Texas on the 15th of September, 2008, the city had been 4 days into an electrical outage caused by the hurricane IKE. The outage was to continue for many weeks along with other deprivations.

My son’s apartment is near mine in the same complex and we are able to enjoy living near each other. We were well stocked for emergencies; we had flashlights, and battery operated radios, food and water for ourselves and pets, land line phones, and a full tank of gasoline in my son’s van. My son also had a tiny battery operated television.

During the days after Ike came ashore in all it’s fury, my son and I developed routines for passing the hours while sheltering in place. Daylight allowed activities that didn’t require electricity, but when the sun went down, the light faded quickly from dusk to a blackness of such intensity that one literally could not see their hand in front of their face.

One evening not long after he had said good night to me, my son returned to my apartment saying he wanted to show me something. Holding my hand, he helped me walk thru the darkness, beyond the patio and the hanging foliage of the trees into the parking area. There it was; a moon in full glory! The radiance was breathtaking. The glow, filling the sky, faded to silver as it touched the concrete of the parking lot. What a delightful moment to stand and admire such beauty knowing that destruction of dreadful proportion had occurred as hurricane IKE swept over land.

It wasn’t until the next morning that I realized Mimi wasn’t hiding in one of her secret lairs but that she must have slipped out the door when I went to see the full moon. I deplored her leaving and could only hope she would find her way back. I thought that maybe the hurricane winds had blown the usual odors of the area away and left behind strange ones that might confuse Mimi if she was inclined to return to captivity.

I was told stories, claiming to be truthful, of cats returning weeks, even months, and in one case, a year later. As hope of such a tale being the case with me, I got used to walking from room to room without having to step over a sleeping cat that refused to move out of the way. I began to enjoy having the whole bed to myself when sleeping and not having to share with a cat that liked to sleep in the middle of the bed. It was a relief not to keep food and water dishes clean and full.
As the weeks passed I began to miss Mimi’s presence. Little by little I began to miss her curiosity and her antics when she found a new box to hide in. I missed her alertness to all the sounds in and outside the apartment. She was like a watch dog. I could tell by the way she reacted to noises, whether it should be investigated or ignored.

A month passed. I was being encouraged to get a replacement cat but I was reluctant to give that suggestion any credence. In fact, I considered my computer a replacement.

Yesterday, my son spied a cat sleeping in a pile of leaves in a neighbor’s yard. It was Mimi! A tall cyclone fence separated the properties preventing us walking over to her and picking her up. Mimi was disoriented and hesitant to come to the fence but with coaxing she made the effort. She was too weak from starvation to climb or jump the fence. We fed her thru the holes in the fence but the problem was trying to get her to our side and home again.

My son got the brilliant idea of taking the cat tree from the apartment and putting it over the fence so Mimi could climb up and we could catch her. I could hardly believe Mimi was home again! She was in bad shape, nearly starved to death, dirty and stinking to high heaven. But she had enough energy to purr and purr and purr as we held her.

We took her to the vet’s the next morning to be treated for fleas however the vet discovered she had a temperature and was given antibiotic shots instead. She is also taking an elixir of vitamins to help in regaining her health, but the flea treatment has to be delayed.

She seems very happy to be home again. She follows me everywhere and now wants to be held and petted whereas before the great ‘escape’ she did not tolerate being held and stroked too often. I am happy to share the bed again and have accepted the fact that she is back in charge and I am the ‘lady in waiting’ ready to attend her every whim.